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Protest Dr. Zucker! Stand up for Trans and Gender Rights!

Posted in Uncategorized on June 1, 2008 by essinem

I am so behind on posting this, but it needs to be posted. My apologies for missing the boat (but you can still do stuff about it, so don’t ignore it).

I’ve been discussing this with friends (hence, why I forgot to post it – thanks to my friend for forwarding the info below to me!), and it’s really angered me. I think about how far we’ve had to drag the APA in the last 50 years, getting them to take homosexuality out of the DSM, etc, and for them to then put someone who believes that homosexuality IS SOMETHING THAT CAN BE CURED on the committee to discuss Gender Identity Disorder and the DSM? Um, hi, WTF mate?

Now, I’m not 100% sure on where I stand about keeping GID in the DSM vs. removing it completely. Shocking, I know. But I have reasoning behind this (some of which was discussed in my Clinical Issues in the Transgender Community class). While I don’t think that GID should be seen as a mental illness (and I do understand that having it as such can lead to all sorts of problems getting insurance coverage later on in life), having it as something that can be diagnosed opens up many doors for some transpeople as regards to insurance. Some insurances will pay for hormones if a client is diagnosed; others won’t continue to even pay for therapy sessions unless a client is diagnosed with a mental illness (such as, oh say, GID). So I don’t think it should be a mental illness, but I also don’t want people to lose insurance benefits because it is removed. I think maybe they should make a special subsection? For things that don’t need to be cured, but still need medical attention (therapy) and support from insurance companies. Yeah, I know that will never happen, but that’s my solution.

Anyways, regardless, having read a bit of his work (K has my book with him in it right now, but I’ll post the name of it when I figure it out…), I think he’s an asshat. In a major way. He believes in reparative therapy for homosexuality (and GID), and is really just a pompous idiot (in my own humble opinion, of course). And the APA has appointed him to head the committee on inclusion or exclusion of GID in the newest version of the DSM. Um, hi, WHAT THE FUCK? Worst idea EVAH. He’ll probably try to het homosexuality put back in!

Below is info a) on his appointment, and b) what you can do to take a stand. Please, be an ally, a SOFFA (not the comfy kind…unless, as a person, you are comfy), a member of the community (any community for that matter), and speak your mind. Once a decision is made by this committee, it may take decades to change it; let’s do what we can to make sure it is done ethically, and with the best interest of the trans community. Do what you can, and please please please repost!

That’s all. *steps off soapbox* Have a rocking weekend!

-Essin’ Em

Significant and potentially damaging change has recently taken place within the American Psychiatric Association (APA.)

A few days ago the American Psychiatric Association announced the name of a new member of the DSM-V Task Force. The DSM (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) lists diagnostic criteria for mental disorders, including Gender Identity Disorder (homosexuality was removed in 1974). The APA appointed Dr. Kenneth Zucker to chair the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group, despite his history of advocating that queer and trans people (especially youth) can be “cured” through reparative therapy. In short, Dr. Zucker believes he can “turn” LGB people straight, and “help” transmen & women remain in the gender they were assigned at birth.

The disturbing significance of this appointment cannot be overstated.

So what can we do about it?

1) Sign a petition objecting the APA’s appointment of Kenneth Zucker. You can find that petition here: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/2/objection-to-dsm-v-committee-members-on-gender-identity-disorders

2) Email the APA at dsm@psych.org to let them know that Dr. Zucker’s appointment is not just a mistake, but could lead to long-term, negative consequences for the LGBT mental health community.

3) Talk to mental health providers, as well as your family and friends; spread the word!

Here it is….SUGASM #124!!!

Posted in Uncategorized on April 2, 2008 by essinem

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #125? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

In Which Penny Enjoys Her Bath

“In the bathroom, I flipped on the heater and shed my clothes.”

Just passing through

“I twitched under her stare.”

Kegal exercises on wet Monday afternoon

“Do you know what it’s like, to be buggered?”

Mr. Sugasm Himself

WP/PHP Guru?

Editor’s Choice

More Traveling…

More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

The Face – The Fall Of Eliot Spitzer

Let me clarify something…

On being a slut.

Regulating Prostitution and its various business models

Would You Pose Without Clothes?

Sex Humor

Lusty Leprechauns

BDSM & Fetish

Black Panties (a story)

Earning myself a spanking

A fun weekned

Goodness Gracious

HNT – Hidden Nipple Thursday

Riding the Wave

The Spiritual Significance of Spanking

Submissive?

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews

Blog Anniversary Contest Winners

Call for submissions: Theory and Practice

Dana DeArmond Stripped Of Her Name During Slave Training With Julie Night

Euphoric Tendencies – a review

Gianna Lynn Endures Water And Suffocation Bondage Underwater On Waterbondage.com

Get a Personal Shopper for Your Genitals

My First Review on Adult DVD Talk!

Pushers

San Francisco Fetish Ball 2008 Photos and Review

Erotic Writing and Experiences

A black shemale sucked my cock in Amsterdam

Captivating the college girl part one

Clandestine

Close Your Eyes

In His Pants

Leopard print: you just can’t beat it

Northern lights and sleepless nights

Wet Vagoo

You’re my pornstar (part 3)

Sex Advice

How Women Can Learn to Have an Orgasm with Intercourse

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Dahlia Grey by Andrew Blake

Exotic Jewel

Half-Nekkid in the Shower

Her Intentions Fall to the Floor

How do you like my cock?

Hello world!

Posted in Uncategorized on February 13, 2008 by essinem

Welcome to WordPress.com. This is your first post. Edit or delete it and start blogging!

Happy Birthday to me!!!

Posted in Uncategorized on December 10, 2007 by essinem

I am now one year older.

Happy Birthday to me :)

And now, to the Philly Roller Girl’s Snow Brawl

Holiday Wishlist MeMe

Posted in Uncategorized on November 28, 2007 by essinem

I’m B-O-R-E-D and my kidneys hurt, and I’m being wistful. I got this from Sarah Katherine Lewis who is the author of Indecent which is one of my favorite books, and she’s coming out with another book soon.

Holiday givng-type meme: I’m all for it. Here’s the cut and paste:

Step One
- Make a post (public, friendslocked, filtered…whatever you’re comfortable with) to your LJ or Myspace (or sex blog if your name is Essin’ Em). The important thing is, make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real possible things, make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it’s your address or just an email address at which you can be contacted by potential wish-grantors, real or imaginary.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your post, or link to this post (it’ll be public) so that the holiday joy will spread.

Step Two
- Surf around your friends list (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list.
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it’s in your heart to do so, make someone’s wish come true. Sometimes someone’s trash is another’s treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don’t want or a gift certificate you won’t use–or even know where you could get someone’s dream purebred Basset Hound for free–do it.

You needn’t spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn’t to put people out, it’s to provide everyone a chance to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not–it’s your call.

There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Just…wish, and it might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you’ll have the joy of knowing you made someone’s holiday special.

Wishlist If you happen to want to send me any of this gifts, please email me at EssinEm at gmail dot com

1. A pretty corset with real boning that fits my boobies and holds them in and up and is pretty and shiny and oh so awesome…I’m like a size 16/18, with 38/40DD breasts

2. A day trip with some one to New York City to see the lights and Madison Square Garden and the train and all the everything that is going on. We could take the train or the China Town Bus…I’m free the 23rd…or other dates

3. Satin queen sized sheets and pillow cases, preferably red, black or burgundy, but blues, purples, greens, any color would do. NOT PINK. Any color but pink.

4. Someone to come in and organize my living room for me. It looks like a cyclone hit it, and goodness knows I’m a messy person. Eep. I try, I do, and it’s not dirty, just messy, but oy.

5. Something fun to do on Christmas…I have the day off, and no one to spend it with and nothing to do, because I’m Jewish.

6. A dresser or chest of drawers that is way more stable and hefty that the piece of shit I have from Ikea that wobbles when Kinsey jumps on it. Light-ish wood or semi modern looking would be awesome, but I’d take about anything in pretty good condition just about now. It needs to be in the Philly area, and fit either in a car, or have some way of getting it to me. I might be able to pay my friend with an SUV to bring it to me, but it’s a small ish SUV, so it can’t be HUGE. I really need somewhere sturdy to store my clothes though.

7. A slightly bigger TV. It doesn’t need to be huge, but mine is like 15″ big, and is a hold over from college. I don’t want anything spiffy, but if you recently upgraded, I’d love your old TV. Edit: I measured. The screen itself is 8″ tall. Apparently, I have no sense of size. Good thing I always say size doesn’t matter, because I would lose at life it it did!

8. Interesting sci-fi, mystery, and fantasy books to read…I like Tamora Pierce, Patrica C Wrede, Orson Scott Card, Agatha Christie, so those types of things.

9. A massage/discount for a massage/something towards a massage. I’d almost kill for one of these.

10. An interesting necklace; my conversation piece necklace from Prague broke two years back, and my chain maile necklace got lost in the move, so I’m looking for a cool necklace to wear that is large but not gaudy, and is eye catching. Used is totally ok, I’m all about passing it on.

I can help out with discounts on sex toys; email me if they’re on your wishlist. I’ll give anyone that emails me 15% off your order from EdenFantasys.com (which has free shipping). And if you post your lists, I’ll see if I can help you out wish your lists!

Dacia needs interns…

Posted in Uncategorized on November 27, 2007 by essinem

Ho-k folks. Audacia Ray from wakingvixen.com is looking for interns. She’s awesome, and I’d be an intern for her any day…if I wasn’t already going to school full time…and working full time. I bet she’d be a fun boss! Most of the positions can be done via tele-commuting, so check it out. Re-posting from the multi-talented Dacia herself:

Seeking interns for feminist sex media producer

About Waking Vixen Productions: WVP creates sex positive media and culture that gets people thinking, but is also sexy and fun. In association with Adam & Eve Pictures, the company produced “The Bi Apple,” a bisexual feature porn film that became a best-seller immediately after its release in February 2007. WVP has also been responsible for a variety of sex positive events including art show openings (Sex Worker Visions I & II at The LGBT Center, March 2006 and Arena Studios, May 2007), parties (The Bi Apple launch party at the Pussycat Lounge, March 2007), erotic readings (NYC Perverts Saloon at Galapagos, April 2006), panel discussions (The State of Smut: NYC at CineKink, October 2006). More info: http://wakingvixen.com

About Audacia Ray: Audacia has been executive editor of $pread, a magazine by and for sex workers, for the past three years and spent a year as a contributor to the Gawker Media owned porn blog, Fleshbot. She is the author of “Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration,” and an internationally acclaimed director/producer whose first feature length porno, “The Bi Apple,” won a Feminist Porn Award for “Hottest Bisexual Scene” in 2007. She curates bimonthly erotic art shows at Arena Studios in New York. More info: http://audaciaray.com

Requirements for all interns: Excellent writing skills, interest in and comfort with gender and sexuality a must, a basic understanding of social networking and online content. A big plus: graphic design, new media skills.

4-6 hours a week to start, you can do this job from home, must have computer and internet connection. I am located in NYC but with the exception of the film production internship you don’t have to be.

PR/event planning: Help promote events I’m already working on and create new ones, and help assemble a press kit. Develop relationships with sponsors and media, pro-actively help me pursue speaking engagements at colleges, universities and other venues. Familiarity with NYC media helpful, but the focus will be a combination of local and national events.

Film Production Assistant (must be in NYC)
: May include tasks like location scouting, casting, budgeting in pre-production phase and will develop as production progresses. Must be excited about/comfortable with dealing with explicit content.

Research intern: Assist me in the early stages of research on my next book project. Requires creativity in research and comfort with libraries and academic databases.

TO APPLY: send your resume (non-traditional resumes and portfolio websites are encouraged) and a writing sample (can be either academic or a form of popular writing – blog posts are welcome), along with a cover letter in the body of your email. Also feel free to give me links to any online projects or social media profiles so I can learn more about you.

Send all correspondence to Audacia Ray at dacia@wakingvixen.com”

You Sugasmed #100 me all night long!

Posted in Uncategorized on October 12, 2007 by essinem

Congrats to SUGASM for reaching 100! Happy Birthday to you :) And many more…some awesome posts, as always, so check them out!

-Essin’ Em

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #101? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Do you want me…?

“The shiver that runs through you tells me everything I need to know.”

Love that ass (his perspective)

“But as long as we are in here, she submits to my command; to my every whim.”

Hubb and Spoeker

“He was good for show and good in bed, but an asshole in the real world.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself

125 Magazine, Alternet and Enviromentally Friendly Porn

Editor’s Choice

The very best of Sugasm…. so far

More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Being Stuck Outside

Dominance, Submission, Humiliation, Control

Miscarriage and Feminine Identity

The next colonel sanders or orville redenbacher

No more pen and sex

Sex on the first date???

What Is Mary Hiding?

Why “Sugasm” Matters

Sex Work

Do you like phone sex?

La Petite Mort

Sex Work And Religion: The Sex Crazed Pagan Cult Fantasy

NSFW Pics & Videos

I could watch her do laundry all day!

Just Teen Site Releases All New Nude Videos

Red Rose

Today’s Special Offer: Fresh Hamburgers

Sex News & Reviews

Belated Happy 2nd Blogiversary to My Bottom Smarts!

Fetish Film – How to Use Sounds (Urethral Sounds)

First Purity Balls, Now Integrity Balls

It’s HERE!!!! Miss Francy’s “Spanking the Male Mind”!

Team Up with the 6th Annual Blogger Boobie-Thon

BDSM & Fetish

Back To School

Catalina loves Chat

Dancing with the Devil, a D/s Relationship

The Dungeon: Sex Camp, Night One

Fuck of a Lifetime

Harder….

Heat

I Got Your Number

Manhandled

Mira

My Wife is a Skank! pt1

A Nawty Story: Diane Phones Home

Objets d’obsession: neck corsets

Our game

Piss Slut

Who is Elise Sutton and why does it matter?

Erotic Writing and Experiences

100 Sexy

An Affair with the Wind

Corseting Mrs. Russian

Burlesque: Home Coming

Gamahuche

I Succumb to Jefferson’s Dastardly Lesbian Plot!

More Than A Breast-Fondle

The Morning Rollover

Party Blowjob – Part 3